PS:- This post is dedicated to all the good guys out there who still exist in the world. I know someone too who belongs to this category 🙂
Being in an unhappy relationship is bad but having a toxic relationship is worse. The worst thing about having a toxic or destructive relationship is that you are not aware of this fact. You vaguely know that you are not happy in this relationship. However, you will never classify the relationship as a toxic one. Once it ends and you have a chance to be in a new relationship, the experience will be entirely different.
Admit it , we all have been in horrible situations when it comes to finding true love. We fail to connect even with the person we have known the longest. Things change and so do people. But what happens when you finally meet a good guy who connects with you just as expected ?
Sometimes happiness just follows and this post is about that exact feeling 🙂 Read on…..
At first, you expect the worst.
For a while, you don’t believe good guys do exist. Because for so long you looked for the wrong qualities and you accepted a lot of these people who didn’t deserve you. But when you are finally together with a good guy, you begin questioning yourself if you really deserve him. You know what ? Yes, I do deserve him 🙂
And overthink everything.
You think everyone has motives or doesn’t mean what they say. When you’ve caught someone in lies so often it makes you paranoid as fuck. You don’t believe people can be honest or mean what they say. You make crazy assumptions and doubt really good people just because of one person.Next thing you know you’re explaining to this guy how you got to this conclusion in your head and he’s baffled. Not because you’ve questioned him but that someone has made you this way and all he wants to do is reverse this.
I feel truly sorry for this though 😦
You’ll think he’s too good to be true.
Someone treating you this well has got to be too good to be true. You’re expecting the other shoe to drop. You’re expecting him to lose it one day. You’re expecting some abrupt ending without closure. But every day he just proves to you he’s the same person he’s been from the start. He’s given you no reason to question him but it isn’t him you don’t trust it’s everyone in the past. And that’s what makes me like him more and more everyday.
After you push him away.
Someone in the past has led you to believe you don’t deserve the best. So when you get it you reject it. You fear something good because you don’t want to lose it. You don’t want to get hurt again so you try and ruin it first. But what you’ll realize that’s different about this guy is when you run he’ll chase you. When you push him he’ll grab you close and not let you leave. That’s All I EVER wanted – someone who has the fear of loosing me 🙂
You’re going to expect fights.
You keep waiting for a fight. But instead, everything gets talked out and explained. And there’s this wave of comfort afterward and you realize normal people don’t leave the second something goes wrong.
And guess what ? We have never even had our first fight , because there is immense mutual understanding and respect for each other.
Then you’ll apologize too often.
He’s going to wonder why you apologize so often or what it is you’re saying sorry for. He’ll see the pain in your eyes from someone in the past whose made you question yourself. He’ll see the pain in your heart trying so hard to love again when you’ve only known heartbreak. And he’s going to constantly reassure you everything is okay.
When a good guy loves someone who is broken who has only known toxic relationships, what he does is teach her she didn’t deserve anything she got.He redefines these horrible standards she has and he chooses to be the exception.
Yes indeed 🙂 One of the best feeling in the world is having someone who makes you his priority 🙂
And question if they are better off without you.
You think they are better off without you but the truth is just as they have made your life better it goes both ways. And I know you’re scared to love again. I know you’re afraid to let anyone that close. But your sensitivity. Your compassion. Your strength and understanding and lack of judgment in everyone is what makes you beautiful.
In the past, you were able to love someone who was completely unlovable and intolerable. You found the good in them. You took a chance on them. You never gave up on them. And it’s your turn to have that reciprocated.
This new relationship isn’t what you are used to but it’s exactly what you deserve.
And when you finally get comfortable and accept this relationship you are going to love this person with everything you have in you. But don’t try too hard. Don’t think you have to. In the past, you were taught your best isn’t good enough. So you had to try too hard. You had to compete. You had to prove yourself.
Then you trust him.
There’s going to be a moment where you tell this guy everything that’s happened. A moment you trust him to let him that close. And when you tell him about the past and the people who have hurt you what you’ll find isn’t that’s he’s going to take off. It’s just given him a reason to stay.
It works even better when you have been best friends before the relationship with the good guy and he has seen your every rise and fall.And there is nothing to hide from him 🙂
Finally you learn what love really is.
You begin to realize that relationship that used to define your standard of love was so far from the real thing. You learn that love isn’t supposed to hurt you or be demeaning. Love isn’t supposed to break your heart just to build you back up. Love is not anything that comes in the form of jealousy. Whether it’s making you jealous or being jealous of you. The right type of love does not play games with your heart or want to see you in pain.
You realize all of that wasn’t love but control.
You build yourself back up and fearlessly love again, only this time you do it right.
The right type of love heals you and that’s exactly what this guy has done.
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